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Not Happy at Work? Try This…

Let me guess, you aren’t all that pumped to go to work in the morning. When the evil sound of your alarm rings in the morning, you weigh the consequences of calling in sick versus tuffing it out for the whole day. The crappy part is, it’s only Tuesday. I know that’s how I feel a lot of the time.

Here are a few things you can try if you’re not happy at work.

Figure out why you aren’t happy at work

I know this is kind of a simple idea, but really think about it. What is it about getting up and going to work at your job everyday that you dislike? Is it the getting up early part? The actual tasks you have to do? Or maybe it’s the commute or someone you work with who you want to punch in the face as soon as you see them. Think about it some and be brutally honest with your answers.

What next?

Once you have an answer for what you loath about your job, let’s take a look at how to fix it. The first step is to look at the obvious solution… can you get a new job? Sometimes we are somewhat stuck where we are. You might be at a high pay rate and not be able to afford starting at a lower income somewhere else. You might be contractually obligated to be there for whatever reason. This kind of sucks.

If this is the case for you, start looking at different options within the company. See if there is a lateral move you can make or different team you can work with. Many times a small change can make all of the difference.

On the other hand, if you can quit, look at your options. Will you work in the same type of job or the same industry? Working in a similar job at a different company falls into my Same Shit Different Toilet category. You are likely to find yourself in the same situation having the same types of problems at the new company.

Changing it up

Look at what your skills are. I have a strange mix of skills. I have worked as a writer, senior producer for a podcast, sales, web developer, marketer, designed and built custom vehicles and built police, fire and other public safety vehicles. When looking for work, I call on any and all of the skills used in these fields. I could look for work at a car dealership managing their online car sales. Or work for a company marketing equipment or services to public safety companies or municipalities.

When you look at your skills, don’t look at the big picture, look at what you really do all day. You might be a office manager in title, but do you organize events for the company and really like it? You could look into party planning.

Do you work in a call center? You must have a lot of patience, customer service skills and aren’t afraid to talk to strangers. Outside sales might be a profitable fit for you.

See where I’m going with this?

The hardest part

The hardest part of the process is…. TAKING ACTION.

That’s right, you need to do something about it. Playing the procrastination game won’t do a damn thing for you. Start by looking at some job boards. I prefer to look at more local sites. Your state will have some sort of Department of Workforce Development. Here are a couple of them I found with a quick Google search:

Most of these will need a resume of some sort. You can copy and paste what you have into the system. If you need help making one, these places usually offer free help.

Once you have your resume on there, you can apply to most of the jobs with a few clicks.

I know you may be thinking this all sounds like a pain in the ass. It’s going to eat into your TV or drinking time. Well the truth is, job hunting IS a pain in the ass. It takes some time and you might not find anything you’re happy with for a while.

Why do it you may ask? Well, if you dislike your current job, you are likely to call in sick more, half-ass your work, be grumpy all of the time, talk bad about people you work with and generally no fucks will be given about your job other than it pays your bills. If you were your boss and had to fire three people in your department, wouldn’t any or all of those be a good reason? They sure as shit aren’t going to fire the chick four cubicles down who wakes up with more energy than a three year old who found a glazed doughnut on the counter. She is happy, on time and ready to tackle the day…. unlike you.

Looking for a new gig will bring some joy back into your day. It’s a lot better to make the effort to find something you like now instead of getting fired from a job you dislike and having to take the first job you can find just to pay your bills.

 

What do you think someone should do if they hate waking up and going to work everyday? Leave a comment and let us know what you did or plan to do.

 


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What happens when you aren’t happy

There are times when you aren’t happy.  For instance,  as I write this,  I am pretty sad.  I’m having relationship problems that may not be recoverable.

Regardless of what the outcome is, there will be this emotional notch in my memory.  There will be a time when I look back on this problem, I will look at it in one of a couple ways. I’ll either look back and see it as a time I confronted it in a positive way or wonder what would have been different if I had acted positively.

There is a quote I really like that’s good advice and reminds me to take a step back, take a deep breath and look at the situation again.

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It’s hard sometimes to see the silver lining in a situation. Arriving at the proverbial fork in the road is never an easy choice.

I say go with your gut. Go with the most passionate feeling you have. Usually its the hardest path.

Tell me your thoughts on making choices while you are unhappy in the comments below.


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John Lennon Had it Right When He Said

“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.” — John Lennon

How is this not a good quote? I mean, there is a lot of truth in it. Why go through life a miserable unhappy wreck?

When I saw this quote for the first time, it really hit me hard. Reading the quote was a real ah-ha moment. For like a week I was all about making choices based on happiness instead of any other reason. The problem I had was I slowly fell back into my old ways and stopped making happiness based choices.

It’s really difficult to do  when you have an established life and responsibilities.

Heres what I started doing to make happiness choices

Step 1. Eliminate what makes you unhappy.

I know that sounds pretty simple, but can it really be that easy? The answer is a resounding YES! What you will feel when you start getting rid of things in your life that make you unhappy is kind of strange. You will feel like there is something missing. A void. This is where all the stress and drama used to live inside of you.

Remember, be ruthless. You can start small and work your way up to bigger things. My recommendation is to take one task at a time. Like any habit, taking on too much will ensure your failure. I’m not one to really like goals and rewards. I feel like reaching the goal is reward enough. I’m kinda weird like that. If you are the type of person who benefits from a goal and reward system, by all means use it. Just make sure the reward is fitting for the goal achieved.

Step 2. Take some time to think about what makes you happy.

This step is kinda hard for a lot of people. We get so wrapped up in our day-to-day living, we don’t really stop to think about things like what makes us happy. Or even better, what doesn’t make us happy. We usually just go with the flow and make incremental changes to course correct the best we can until the negativity gets so piled up, any kind of change seems overwhelming.

Take some time and think though. There is no reason you need to fill that void right away. If you aren’t sure what makes you happy, explore a little.

–DO NOT FILL THE VOID WITH STUFF–

 

Instead, pick something small you’ve never done before and try it. If you are making changes and eliminating things in your life to be happier, your happiness is likely not something you were already doing.

When you find something, and this may take a week or a year, add it as a full fledged part of your life.

Step 3. Start looking for other things to make you happy.

After tackling some smaller things, you can step up your happiness even more. Somethings to look at changing might be:

Once you get on a roll and make being happy something you do everyday, you will start looking at things differently and other people will look at differently too. People like to be around happy people. They want to know the secret.

You will sleep better, have less stress and maybe get off some of those anxiety meds you are on. Think about it…. why aren’t we making more choices based on happiness? What is the real reason holding us back?

 

What can you do to be happier today?


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Happy is a Choice

“You can choose to be happy or to let everything around you bring you down.” ~ Trevor

Did you know being happy is a choice? Well it is. Being happy is a controllable emotion. When you see yourself getting pissed off at every little thing in your day, take a minute to say fuck it. » More »


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Those who are happiest…


Do you think this is something you do everyday?


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